Your desire, your voice
Develop a real relationship with what you want, then practice saying it out loud.
Coaching for individuals
Private coaching for individuals, couples & partners
The better you know yourself, the more fully you can be known.
Knowing exactly what you want, and saying it out loud, is one of the most empowering things a person can do. It’s also how you get to be fully seen.
What the work gives you
From hiding what you want to being fully seen
Most of us learned to keep our wants small and quiet. Something shifts when you stop. When you know what you want and can say it plainly, you stop managing other people’s reactions and start showing up as yourself. That is freedom, and it is also what makes real intimacy possible.
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Know what you want
In your body first, then in words. Not what you think you should want, and not what worked years ago.
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Say it out loud
Clearly, without apologizing or overexplaining, to the people who matter. We practice until it feels like yours.
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Be fully seen
When what’s inside matches what you say, people can finally meet the real you. So can you.
“It is really really good to want and to be clear about it.”Teresa P., workshop participant
A shared language
Slow down, know yourselves more honestly, and bring that honesty into contact with each other.
Couples & partnersOne day, just for you two
A half or full day of focused, body-based work for couples and partners who want real movement fast.
The couples intensive
The details
How it works
90minutes
Sixty on request.
$250per session
$300 for couples and partners. A few reduced-rate places.
Boulderor online
My private office, or video from anywhere.
1at a time
No packages. Weekly or every other week, your call.
- In sessionWe talk, and we work in the body, starting from whatever you bring that day.
- TouchOptional. Guided self-touch, and in person, clothed and non-sexual hands-on work, always agreed in advance.
- Couples & partnersTogether, individually, or alternating, whatever serves you.
- Between sessionsA practice or two to try in real life, as an invitation.
- PaymentPrepaid by card, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle.
The toolkit
What we might actually do
Drawn from my training in the VITA™ Method, the Wheel of Consent®, NVC, and somatic practice, and chosen for what you’re working on and what your body is ready for.
In the body
- Breathwork, including arousal breath
- Sound and movement to release tension
- Guided meditation and visualization
- Guided self-touch, at your own pace
- Optional clothed, non-sexual hands-on work (in person)
Under the surface
- Parts work with the inner voices behind your patterns
- Rewriting limiting beliefs about sex and worth
- Attachment patterns in your relationships
- Nervous-system regulation
Out loud
- The Five Doors™: mapping your desire, sense by sense
- The Wheel of Consent®
- Nonviolent Communication
- RBDSMA consent conversations
Between sessions
- Pleasure practices, solo or partnered
- Tantra-informed practices, made practical
- Small experiments to try in real life
Beyond our sessions
A trusted circle of collaborators
I work alongside some wildly skilled practitioners who go deeper in their specialties than I do. When something calls for a specialist, you’ll get access to my list of people I’ve vetted and trust.
- Vocal activation & singing
- Sexological bodywork
- Deep hands-on bodywork
- Sensual dance
- Men’s work
- In-depth cycle syncing
- Ceremonialists
Is this a fit
This work tends to land for people who…
- Are willing to tell the truth, first to themselves.
- Want to take radical personal responsibility for their desires, their boundaries, and their choices. I’ll give you the tools; the power stays with you.
- Want care and honesty. I get to the crux of things fast, and I’ll call you out with love when you need it.
- Are curious about the body as a source of information, not just a problem to fix.
- Would rather go slow and real than fast and performed.
It’s probably not the right fit if you’re in acute crisis, looking for a diagnosis or treatment, or hoping for sexual services. If that’s where you are, I’m glad to point you toward the right kind of support.
Questions
Frequently asked
What is somatic intimacy coaching?
Somatic intimacy coaching is body-based coaching for sex, desire, and relationships. Instead of only talking about what’s wrong, we work with what your body is already telling you: sensation, tension, openness, the freeze response. From there you build words for what you want and practice asking for it. Sessions move between conversation and simple body-awareness practices.
What’s the difference between an intimacy coach, a sex therapist, and a couples therapist?
Sex therapists and couples therapists are licensed mental health professionals who can assess, diagnose, and treat. An intimacy coach is not a therapist. Coaching is experiential and forward-focused: learning what you want, how to communicate it, and how to feel more at home in your body. Coaching isn’t a substitute for mental health or medical care. Many clients see a therapist alongside our sessions (I have my own therapist too), and if you need clinical care, I’ll tell you and help you find it.
Is there touch in sessions?
Most of our work is conversation and body-awareness practice, and virtual sessions involve no touch at all. I may guide you through self-touch practices, where you explore sensation with your own hands at your own pace. For in-person clients who want it, and for whom it’s the right fit, hands-on somatic work is also available. It is always clothed and always non-sexual. We talk it through beforehand, you set the terms, and you can change your mind at any moment, including mid-session. It is never required.
Do all partners need to come?
No. Often one person is ready first, and that’s a fine place to start. Many clients begin on their own and invite their partner or partners in later. Others do the work entirely for themselves and find it changes what’s possible in their relationship regardless.
Who do you work with?
Individuals, couples, and partners of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures: monogamous, ethically non-monogamous, polyamorous and multi-partner, married, dating, co-parenting, and single.
Does virtual coaching really work for something this embodied?
Yes. Somatic work is about your relationship with your own sensations, and that happens in your body wherever you are. Most practices translate fully to video, and many clients find it easier to drop in from their own space.
How much does it cost?
Individual sessions are $250 and couples sessions are $300, each 90 minutes. For three or more partners, we’ll set the format and fee together. Sessions are prepaid by card, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle. A small number of reduced-rate places are available. If cost is what stands between you and this work, tell me on the discovery call. You won’t need to explain or document anything.
How many sessions will I need?
Consistency matters. There’s no package to buy, so I rely on you to book as often as will help catalyze your growth. I can’t make you grow; you get to decide how often we meet and for how long. Most people work with me for at least three months, but it’s truly up to you.
What happens on the free discovery call?
It’s a free 30-minute video call. We talk about what brought you here and what you’re longing for, you ask me anything, and we both get a sense of whether we’re a fit. There’s no pressure to book.
Is what I share confidential?
Yes. Everything shared in our sessions is held in complete confidentiality.
Curious? Let’s talk.
A free discovery call is the easiest way to find out if we’re a fit.