Somatic intimacy & sex coaching for individuals What if you actually got what you want?
Most of us have a long, well-rehearsed list of reasons why we don’t say what we want out loud. What if I come off as too much? What if I’m misunderstood? What if they leave? I know that list well. I’ve spent years working my way down it.
People come from a lot of different places
Looking for your person
And something keeps getting in the way.
Carrying pain around sex
In the body, in the heart, or both.
Fresh out of a breakup
Something cracked open that you don’t want to close back up.
In a season of change
The old version of you in relationship no longer fits.
Unsure what you want
Or sure, and never able to ask for it.
Simply wanting more
More pleasure, more aliveness. Nothing is broken. When it comes to pleasure, more is more.
What my clients share is a willingness to look inward and get curious about themselves, maybe for the first time in a long time.
“I think the most noticeable shift was realizing that I do, in fact, know what I want.”Katarena H., workshop participant
Walk back into dating knowing who you are
Coming out of a long relationship, a divorce, or a breakup that rearranged you? Dating in a new way, like opening up to non-monogamy? The old playbook doesn’t fit anymore.
Before you start swiping, we get you ready from the inside.
- Know what you want nowNot what you wanted ten years ago, or what your last partner wanted.
- Spot your old patternsBefore they pick your next partner for you.
- Name your non-negotiablesEarly and cleanly, without apologizing or overexplaining.
- Talk about sex, boundaries, and sexual healthWith someone new, before things get heated.
- Stay in your body on datesSo you can feel your yes, your no, and your maybe in the moment.
If you’ve been single a long while, or you’re coming out of a long relationship or a string of painful ones, it’s easy to lose hope. It’s never too late.
Miracles can happen tomorrow: a love, and an experience of pleasure, you didn’t think was humanly possible.
Common threads in individual coaching
- Not knowing what you want: in sex, in touch, in relationships. We find out from the body up.
- The yes that means maybe: people-pleasing, over-giving, and boundaries that arrive too late.
- Freezing or leaving your body during intimacy, or feeling disconnected even when you’re trying to be present.
- Shame and performance: sex that looks right from the outside and feels hollow from the inside.
- After rupture or betrayal: rebuilding trust with yourself before you rebuild it with anyone else.
Care, and the truth
Many of us have never had a space where being fully seen felt possible. If that’s what you’re longing for, we build the conditions for it here, starting with you.
In our sessions you’ll develop a real relationship with your own desire, uncovering what is genuinely true for you right now, separate from external expectations, past partnerships, and cultural scripts. Then you’ll practice revealing your insides to the outside world.
I pay close attention to what your body is already communicating, because our nervous systems hold information our thoughts haven’t reached yet.
You’ll get a lot of care from me. You’ll also get the truth. Clients tell me I get to the crux of a thing fast, and that I’ll call them out with love when they need it.
“I feel like a veil has been lifted as I form a better relationship with my body and how it informs my emotions.”Marti, individual client
There’s plenty I’m still figuring out, on my own and with my partner. I have my own therapist and my own mentors. I won’t ask you to go anywhere I haven’t been willing to go myself.
Sessions at a glance
90 minutes, $250
Prepaid by card, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle. Sixty-minute sessions available on request, and reduced-rate places too; just ask on your call.
Boulder or online
In person at my private office in Boulder, Colorado, or by video from anywhere in the world.
Talk + body
We move between conversation and somatic practice. Optional hands-on work in person is always clothed and non-sexual.
One session at a time
No packages. Weekly or every other week, and you set the rhythm.
The first step is a conversation.
Book a free discovery call. We’ll talk about what’s bringing you here and whether we’re a fit.