Couples & partners intimacy coaching · Boulder & online Learn to want each other out loud.
For couples and partners (two or more of you) who love each other and want more: more desire, more honesty, and a kind of intimacy you may never have had words for.
- 90 minper session
- $300for two partners
- Boulder or onlineworldwide
- Free call30 minutes
What’s usually underneath
Many couples arrive with what looks like a sexual problem: a mismatch in desire, a shift in physical pleasure, a growing distance from each other, or expectations around sex that have never quite matched up.
After working with hundreds of people, what I’ve noticed is that underneath it all there is often something more foundational: a want that remained unspoken, or a deep belief that keeping silent was the safest choice.
Without knowing what we truly want, we can’t ask for it. And without being able to ask for it, we end up compromising, diluting, and settling. You deserve more than that.
Where are you two right now?
Choose the one that sounds most like you.
One of you wants sex more often than the other, and the topic has become a minefield.
Where we’d often start
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
- Ask, and own itPractice asking clearly for what you want and owning that you want it, without pressure, blame, or apology.
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
You’re close in every way except physically.
Where we’d often start
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
- Bring it homePractices between sessions, offered as invitations, so the change lives in your real life and not just in my office.
You keep having the same conversation and it never goes anywhere new.
Where we’d often start
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
- Ask, and own itPractice asking clearly for what you want and owning that you want it, without pressure, blame, or apology.
- Bring it homePractices between sessions, offered as invitations, so the change lives in your real life and not just in my office.
Life (kids, stress, a new season) has changed your bodies and your rhythm.
Where we’d often start
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
- Bring it homePractices between sessions, offered as invitations, so the change lives in your real life and not just in my office.
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
You’re opening or restructuring your relationship and want to do it with care.
Where we’d often start
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
- Ask, and own itPractice asking clearly for what you want and owning that you want it, without pressure, blame, or apology.
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
You’re rebuilding after a rupture or betrayal.
Where we’d often start
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
- Ask, and own itPractice asking clearly for what you want and owning that you want it, without pressure, blame, or apology.
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
Or things are genuinely good, and you want more: more play, more heat, more depth. Coaching is a fun way to charge up a relationship that’s already thriving.
Where we’d often start
- Know yourselves more honestlyEach of you gets clear on what’s actually true for you now, not what you think you should want or what worked five years ago.
- Build shared languageDevelop words for desires and for limits using tools like the Wheel of Consent® and RBDSMA, and use them to have the conversations you’ve been circling.
- Bring it homePractices between sessions, offered as invitations, so the change lives in your real life and not just in my office.
“Knots tied in connection can only be untied in connection.”
“Learning that my needs can create relational harmony rather than harm.”
Stephanie M., workshop participant
“I finally have words for what I want. My partner and I had the best conversation we’ve had in years.”
Past participant
“It is really really good to want and to be clear about it.”
Teresa P., workshop participant
Couples & partners sessions
Joint, individual, or alternating. We find what serves you.
For three or more, we set the fee together.
My private office, or video from anywhere.
Every relationship structure, gender, and orientation.
Prepaid by card, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle.
That’s a fine place to start.
Sometimes one person gets here first. Many clients start on their own and invite their partner or partners in later.
Couples & partners FAQ
What is couples intimacy coaching?
Couples intimacy coaching helps partners understand their own desires and limits, then talk about them with each other clearly and without blame. It’s practical and body-based: you learn to notice what’s true for you, ask for it, and build a shared language for sex and closeness.
Can coaching help with mismatched desire or libido?
Yes. Mismatched desire is one of the most common reasons couples come to me. Underneath it there’s usually an unspoken want or a belief that silence was safer. We slow down, get honest about what each of you actually wants, and find where your desires overlap.
Is couples intimacy coaching the same as couples therapy?
No. Couples therapists are licensed clinicians who assess and treat. Coaching is experiential and forward-focused, centered on desire, communication, and consent. It can be a good complement to therapy, and I’ll say so if therapy would serve you better.
Do you work with non-monogamous or LGBTQ+ couples?
Yes. I work with couples of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures, including ethically non-monogamous couples and couples who are opening or restructuring.
Do you work with more than two partners?
Yes. Polyamorous and multi-partner relationships are welcome. We can meet with everyone together, in smaller combinations, or one-on-one, and we’ll talk through the format and pricing that fits on your discovery call.
What does couples coaching cost?
Couples sessions are $300 for 90 minutes, in person in Boulder, Colorado, or online. For three or more partners, we’ll set the fee together. Sessions are prepaid by card, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle, and booked one at a time, with no package required.