Private couples intensive · Boulder, or I come to you · By application One day, just for the two of you.
A private half-day or full-day intimacy intensive for couples and partners (two or more of you) who want real movement, not another month of circling the same conversation.
Some things need more than ninety minutes
In a weekly session, we often find the real thing just as the clock runs out. An intensive gives you the time to stay with it: to slow down, feel what’s actually happening in your bodies, say the true thing, and practice something new before you walk out the door.
It’s a day set apart from logistics, kids, and phones. You arrive, we get honest about where you are and where you want to be, and we work in conversation and in the body until something shifts.
You leave with a shared language, a few practices that fit your real life, and a clear sense of what you’re each actually asking for.
- You’re at a turning point: a new chapter, a rupture, or a decision about how your relationship will look.
- Mismatched desire has become the thing you tiptoe around.
- Weekly sessions are hard to fit into your lives, or you’re traveling to Boulder.
- You’re opening or restructuring your relationship and want to do it with care.
- Things are good, and you want more depth, more play, and more heat.
Arrive. Get honest. Practice. Integrate.
Before
A discovery call to make sure it’s a fit, then a short questionnaire for each of you, so we don’t spend the day on background.
Arrive
We start in the body and in the present: what each of you is feeling, wanting, and bracing against right now.
The heart of it
Guided conversations and embodied practices, drawn from The Five Doors™ (my sensory map of desire), the Wheel of Consent®, RBDSMA, and NVC, chosen for exactly what you bring.
After
A written summary of what we found and the practices to take home, plus a follow-up session to check in once real life has had its say.
What the day looks like
A half day.
A full day, with a long lunch break.
Travel costs are added to the fee.
All relationship structures, genders, and orientations.
- Discovery call
- Questionnaire for each of you
- The intensive
- Written summary
- Follow-up session
Everything above is included. The investment is shared on your discovery call.
You set the pace.
- Agreed in advanceAny touch is optional, and we talk it through together before we begin. Most of it happens between you and your partner or partners.
- Only with everyone’s yesIf it would help, I may demonstrate a practice with one of you, only when it’s needed and everyone has clearly agreed.
- Pause, slow, or skipNothing is required. You can change your mind at any point.
Intensives are coaching, not therapy. If something needs clinical support, I’ll say so and help you find it.
Couples intensive FAQ
What is a couples intimacy intensive?
A private, extended coaching day for two or more partners. Instead of meeting weekly for 90 minutes, we spend a half or full day together, which gives enough time to slow down, practice in the body, and move through the conversations that usually get cut short.
Is there any touch during the intensive?
Touch is optional, private, and always agreed on in advance by everyone present. Most touch practices happen between you and your partner or partners. I may demonstrate a practice with one of you if it’s needed and everyone clearly consents. You set the pace, and you can pause or skip anything.
Who is an intensive a good fit for?
Couples and partners who want focused progress: people who travel to Boulder, have limited time for weekly sessions, are at a turning point, or have a relationship that’s already good and want to go deeper. It’s not a substitute for therapy or crisis support.
Can you come to us?
Yes. I can travel to you for an intensive. Travel and lodging costs are added to the fee, and we’ll work out the details on your discovery call.
How do we apply?
Book a free intensive discovery call. Both (or all) of you are welcome on it. We’ll talk about what you’re hoping for, whether an intensive or weekly sessions would serve you better, and choose a date together.