Somatic intimacy coach · Facilitator · Boulder, Colorado I’m Jade. Big heart, clear mirror.
Poetic pragmatist. Hard truth-teller. I work with individuals, couples, and partners who want intimacy that feels grounded, honest, and alive.
I’m a somatic intimacy coach and experiential designer based in Boulder, Colorado. I help people remember the wisdom of their bodies, speak what’s true, and build relationships with more realness than they thought was possible.
I don’t believe intimacy needs to be optimized. I believe it needs to be listened to.
My approach blends body-based practice, consent education, nervous-system attunement, breathwork, and simple communication tools for real life, paced to what your body can actually hold.
Why Jade
Jade isn’t the hardest gemstone (that’s diamond), but it is famously tough. Dense. Resilient. Hard to break because of its interlocking crystal structure.
That’s my style.
I’m the one you call when you’re ready to cut through the noise and meet your truth with love. I’ll be with you in the trenches as you shape what’s ready to change.
“I want to live in a world where people live in their bodies, say what they mean, and love each other because they love themselves.”
A few things I know to be true
- 01
Intimacy is something we remember, not perform.
- 02
Pleasure is a compass. Boundaries are an act of love.
- 03
The body tells the truth before the mind finds language.
- 04
Clarity is kind. Repair is sacred. Go slow to go fast.
- 05
Every structure of love (monogamy, ENM, blended families, co-parenting) deserves skillful care.
- 06
Shame is loud. Presence is louder.
- 07
Radical personal responsibility is an act of freedom. Your yes, your no, and your asks are yours.
These beliefs didn’t come from theory. They came from living.
I was fascinated by sex early on: equal parts spiritual question and lab experiment. Some experiences expanded me. Others contracted me. All of them taught me something. I grew up in a divorced household with very few models of steady, honest love, so I went searching.
I searched everywhere. Medicine ceremonies. Tantra. Relational workshops. Books. Therapy. Any doorway that promised truth. In my late twenties, after a medicine journey, I heard a clear instruction from my intuition: help people come home to their bodies and their truth.
What followed surprised me. I realized I didn’t need more input. I needed perspective. So I chose a long season of celibacy, the edgiest thing I could imagine at the time. In that quiet, I began to unbraid my worth from sexual attention and saw something clearly: for years, sex had been easier for me than vulnerability.
True intimacy (naming needs, revealing fear, receiving devotion) required more courage than anything I’d done before. Slowly, I got clear on my non-negotiables. I grew real compassion for the people I’d partnered with. And I became genuinely comfortable being emotionally naked, a practice I’m constantly working on.
Then I met my devoted, generous, solid, epic human. He has two kids who are patiently training this former child gymnast to become a ball-sports person. Loving him and stepping into this life continues to stretch me in ways I never could have anticipated.
It’s been a hell of a ride. I’m still on it. You’re invited.
What I draw from
These tools aren’t the point. They’re how we create enough grounding for real intimacy to take root. I adapt them to the human(s) in front of me.
Sex, love & relationship coaching
Certified in the VITA™ Method with Layla Martin: desire mapping, breathwork, parts work, attachment, and tantric embodiment practice. Somatic and trauma-informed.
The Wheel of Consent®
Facilitator of the framework created by Dr. Betty Martin, and ongoing assistant facilitator for Like a Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Professionals with Robyn Dalzen, co-founder of the School of Consent and co-author of The Art of Receiving and Giving.
Communication & conflict
Nonviolent Communication (NY Center for NVC). Inclusive Leadership & Conflict Resolution (Inheritance Project).
Body & nervous system
Somatic practice, breathwork, meditation, and embodiment ritual. Craniosacral fascial release with Ascentia Fox. Cycle wisdom.
Human development
Spiral Dynamics and Human Development (Prisma Leadership & Sapience).
Care in community
Zendo Project harm reduction volunteer. Ayurvedic Nutrition & Cooking (Greens Ayurveda, Kerala, India).
See my full training list
- VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification with Layla Martin
- VITA™ Tantric Sex Major with Layla Martin
- VITA™ Men’s Sexuality Major with Layla Martin
- Wheel of Consent® Facilitator Training
- Wheel of Consent®: Like a Pro with Dr. Betty Martin (Seattle, WA)
- Wheel of Consent®: Working with Groups
- Wheel of Consent® with River Roaring (Austin, TX)
- ISTA Level 1 with Elaine Yonge and Raffaello Manacorda (Devon, UK)
- Ipsalu Tantra Level 1, Cobra Breath Intensive with Nayano (Brave Earth, Costa Rica)
- Fundamentals of Tantra with Chantelle Raven and Aaron Kleinerman (Embodied Awakening Academy, Bali)
- Female Sexual Empowerment Series with Marisa Sullivan (Brooklyn, NY)
- Nonviolent Communication, NY Center for Nonviolent Communication (New York, NY)
- Bridge Builders: Conflict Resolution & Inclusive Leadership with the Inheritance Project
- Craniosacral Fascial Release with Ascentia Fox (Longmont, CO)
- Fighting Monkey with Jozef Frucek (Denver, CO)
- Prisma Leadership (Joshua Tree, CA & Austin, TX)
- Spiral Dynamics and Human Development with Sapience (upstate New York, 2025)
- Ayurvedic Nutrition & Cooking, Greens Ayurveda (Kerala, India)
- Zendo Project peer support counselor (Burning Man)
- Crisis Text Line crisis counselor
From intimate circles to international gatherings
Alongside my coaching, I’m a global event producer and experiential designer. For over a decade I’ve curated and led transformational events of every size.
It’s the same skill I bring to a session: creating the conditions for people to meet themselves, meet each other, and feel something real.
When I’m not guiding clients or producing events, you’ll find me somewhere in nature, dancing barefoot, kitchen-witching with my partner, or getting a daily lesson in curiosity from my two stepsons and our two tabby kittens.
If you’re ready to feel at home in your body, I’d love to walk beside you.
You don’t need to know what you want. You only need enough willingness to listen.